No matter whether you are a dad to be, nervously expecting an immanent arrival, or if your children are toddlers, there is something here for you.  This is a simple and practical website, that provides practical advice for dads, by dads. The timely latest article, focuses on how to bring more fun and less stress to Mothers day.  Dads own health and wellbeing is factored in as well through articles like How a health scare made me realise I needed to get in shape for my kids.  

Disclaimer - the website is provided by an insurance company, so there maybe some selling of products in there, but our general look didn't find any.  You also wont agree with everything you read on this site, but article like 10 things books, okay, the internet didn’t tell me about becoming a dad, appear to be legitimate perspectives from dads sharing their own experiences.

We've listed this and various other useful contacts on Resources for Fathers web page
If you know of other resources, let us know by sending an email.

Six ways to celebrate men’s health week -for service providers
 
Men’s health week is held annually around the second week of June.  The theme for 2019 is Men and Families – Keeping Boys and Men Healthy
 
We often hear policy makers and service providers calling on men to take better care of their health, to visit the doctor etc. MRT would like to challenge health and community services to think differently, and to consider how they might deliver their services differently, and how you might adapt to meet men where they are at, and in a way that meets the needs of men.  Here’s six ways you could adapt your services for men and boys.

1. Why not trial delivering services with different hours for a few weeks during June?  Perhaps open the doors at 7am, or stay late until 7pm, and see if this connects with some different men in your  community.  This will of course require promotion getting the word out there in advance.  
2. Perhaps review the look and content in your waiting room.  How about some male-friendly posters on the walls, or call for current clients to bring in old magazines that men might find appealing.  Let’s think broader than a cars magazine.  How about a copy or two of Manspace magazine, fishing magazines, surfing, mountain biking mags, or carpentry, science or travel magazines?   
3. Why not run a survey for your customers about what men want from your services, what is it about what you currently offer that they like, or works for them, and what is it that you could do differently?  
4. Have you considered changing the way you engage with men in that counselling room?  Perhaps move away from the cross table mode, and look at how you can get shoulder to shoulder – finding a source of information/discussion that take the focus away from eye to eye contact.  
5. If you work in a health centre treating children, think about whether you can ask how dad is going, and whether he is involved in his child's health appointments?  What information can you send home for him during men’s health week.  Perhaps you can share some information to help him in his fatherhood role?
6. Share a #knowyourmanfacts infographic through your social media fields , or by printing a poster for your workplace or clinic.

Five ways to celebrate men’s health week – for men, boys, families or workplaces

1. Perhaps you and some of your mates would like to connect and celebrate together.  Here’s some ideas for highlighting the week with your mates or colleagues.
2. Connect with your mates, and check in on how they are travelling.  Get out and do something active together – get out for a walk, bike ride, a paddle, some golf or kick the footie with a few mates. Maybe even share a ride to work together, park a bit further away and walk the last kilometre.  
3. Connect with your kids, and do something healthy to promote the value of men’s health week to you sons and daughters.  
4. Have a fundraising morning tea, lunch, or after work barbecue to help MRT develop resources for new dads.  We all know dads are so important in the lives of children, and bring so many benefits, especially if they are well supported.   We’re working on developing some new support resources for dads, and while we are applying for grants, any other assistance we can get to put them into print, and have them professionally designed will help.  If you are going to put on an event, let us know about it, register it with the MHW website.  If you want to fundraise, let us know.  Direct contributions can be made through our Givenow page at:  https://www.givenow.com.au/support4menandboys  
5. And don’t forget to visit your GP now, or book in for your annual check sometime around your birthday maybe?

There are plenty of resources available at the following two websites:

• The Men’s Health Week Information and Resources website
• Australian Men’s Health Forum

An article on the BBC website explores why more men suicide than women, provides another interesting look at the issue, though there are some useful additions that can be made.

Relationship breakdown is one of the most significant factors in male suicide, accounting for about 25% of male suicides in Australia.  We know that this also correlates strongly with a loss of access to children, and there is strong anecdotal evidence that the risk for men who get appropriate support through that breakdown and loss of access to their children, does drop significantly. Parents Beyond Breakup run an excellent program, now available in Hobart and Launceston, that provides such support to men.

It's time we move past the simplistic idea that men don't talk and they don't seek help.  As with many things, there is truth there, but there's more to it. Men do talk, when given the right environment and context in which to do so.  In my experience when the environment is safe, it can be difficult to shut them up.  We need to create environments and contexts that seek to engage men in ways that appeal to them, that work with the strengths of their psychology and character.  As we know from the men's shed movement, shoulder to shoulder conversation can be more appealing to men.  Perhaps this suggests a walk in the park, rather talk across the counselling table might work better for some?

The article cites Mates in Construction whose programs work because they change the culture.  Not only do they encourage men to share things of a personal nature, they also make it important for others to do the asking.  The more significant culture change is the creation of a more supportive workplace, where people check in on each other.  Colleagues know what is happening in each other's lives and can ask, genuinely, how someone is travelling.   The emphasis is not on the man to change, to talk more, to seek help, but rather on the people around him, and well designed male-friendly services to support him through those challenging times and to connect him with professional help when it is needed.

In Tasmania, OzHelp Tasmania offers similar programs and services in various trades and worksites.  Mates4Mates is also meeting returned services people in ways, contexts and with the language that appeals to their client group.  

Men's Resources Tasmania can talk to your organisation about how you can create male-friendly services.

Don't forget that support is available if you, or someone you know is struggling with issues around suicide.  Visit the Urgent Assistance page on the MRT website for contacts.
Or contact
​Lifeline on 13 11 14
or
Mensline Australia 1300 78 99 78

What a great article in the Sydney Morning Herald on the weekend.
 
“I don’t think that suicide should be viewed as a purely psychiatric issue. The idea that suicide is always the consequence of a definable mental illness continues to dominate the public consciousness despite a growing consensus among the academic community that there is much more at play.”
 
Situational Distress is the term being applied to looking at suicide from a broader perspective than purely mental health.  Programs like Dads in Distress (now an organisation called Parents Beyond Breakup (PBB) provide one critical way to see the issue outside of a mental health paradigm.  Research shows relationship breakdown is a factor in about 25% of male suicides.  
 
Men’s Resources Tas is working with others including Primary Health Tasmania to bring some key people to Tas in hopefully late June, to run a forum on working with men with these issues and perspectives. We'd like to see  PBB establishing a foothold here in Tassie.  These groups are volunteer run and essentially operate through men who have been through relationship breakdown and possibly lost access to children for some time, being facilitators.
 
Prior to that the Tas Suicide Prevention Community Network of which I am a part are also bringing Zac Siedler – an academic and psychologist who established Man Island, amongst others to the Tas Suicide Prevention Forum in May.  His focus is on engaging men.
 
There is a program running through the network of Neighbourhood Houses,  called SuicideTALK.  This is a 90 minute chat aimed at just starting those conversations, breaking down the stigma, giving people the vocabulary to talk about suicide in a constructive way. To date the sessions have had largely women attending, and we are  keen to try the talks in more male dominated spaces.  Dates are available here, and it would be great to see others come along – just register with the House.  If anyone would like a talk in your workplace get in touch, we can probably arrange it – not for free, but it doesn’t need to cost a lot.

If this post has raised any difficult thoughts or emotions for you, help is available at:
Lifeline 131 114
MensLine 1300 789 978
Beyondblue 1300 224 636
Suicide Call Back Service  1300 659 467

The Canberra Times published an interesting article drawing attention to a recent release from the Australian Bureau of Statistics, pointing to people who seek assistance from medical services or medication through the PBS having poorer death, have higher death rates than people seeking assistance for [physical health problems.  The article cites the higher rates for men, and when you go to the ABS data, and look a little closer the findings are actually even worse for men 15-74.  The articles cites rates for the whole population.  The ABS report separates the data from Total Population to 15-74 year olds because of the likelihood of high rates of people dieing over 74 skewing the data.
These three interesting points are from the above ABS page:

• The standardised death rate for males aged 15-74 years who accessed mental health-related treatments in 2011 was almost three times (2.9) higher than that of all males of the same age in the total Australian population (11.2 deaths per 1,000 population compared with 3.8 deaths per 1,000 population).
• The standardised death rate for females aged 15-74 years who accessed mental health-related treatments in 2011 was 2.2 times higher than that of all females of the same age in the total Australian population (5.1 deaths per 1,000 population compared with 2.3 deaths per 1,000 population).
• The standardised death rate for males aged 15-74 years who accessed mental health-related treatments in 2011 was more than twice (2.2 times) that of females of the same age who accessed mental health-related treatments in 2011 (11.2 deaths per 1,000 population compared with 5.1 deaths per 1,000 population respectively).

Perhaps health services need to think more about how we engage men in service delivery?

Mindfullness is getting a lot of attention these days.  All sorts of organisations and businesses are building it into some aspect of their business or practice.  It has been shown to have positive benefits for our wellbeing, so where to start?  Here's a couple of Apps that can help you get started.  


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